Social Introvert | How do Introverts behave at Social Events?
Social introverts; How do introverts behave at social events?
I want to begin by giving a brief overview of my work for context. I predominantly coach international people who live in London or are visiting the city for some time. Therefore, the subject of British small talk is an essential one if they are to immerse themselves in the culture and develop new friendships.
I do, however, coach British individuals on occasion. It may be reassuring for my international readers to learn that not every British person understands small talk or enjoys meeting new people.
Last year I had the pleasure of coaching a mature, successful British woman. She explained she could happily appear on stage to deliver a business presentation to 250 employees. However, if she were asked to ‘work the room’ at a social event, it would result in cold sweats and an endless counting down of the minutes before she could discreetly leave the party, preferably unnoticed.
Does this sound strange, or does it feel familiar to you?
These characteristics are typical of social introverts. They tend to feel drained when they spend too much time in the company of others. Their thought processes can slow down, and large crowds of people can make them feel overwhelmed at times, especially if their energy is low following time spent in the company of others.
They also generally prefer the company of a minor, close group of friends, and meaningful conversation. This makes them very attentive and loyal people. So it is not a negative trait; it is just different to the outwardly confident extroverts that can often leave them questioning their ability to meet and connect with new people.
As well as learning about the facts of introvert/extrovert I also have personal experience. This is because I, too, am an introvert. In fact, over 60% of my clients fall into this side of the spectrum; you are not alone, my friends.
Is there anything you can do to overcome this?
The good news is that if you lean more towards an introverted personality, you can learn how to recognize these feelings and put a plan in place to give yourself enough private time. This ensures that your ‘energy tank’ is full, and as a result, you can give the best of yourself to others. Meeting new people should be fun, and it is if you are in the right space.
During my online courses, I will reassure you that I truly understand how you feel. I will always err on the introverted side of the spectrum; that is who I am. However, I have learned the process and skills and practiced them over and over again. I now look forward to meeting new people and mingling. I will teach you how to do this too.
The good news!
Please be reassured that you can feel differently about walking up to new people and starting a conversation. With new skills and a little bit of practice, you will be surprised at the person you can become — all while remaining true to your authentic self.
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